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How to choose lesbian sex toys

Ask first. A palm you pass. Straps if that was already the job.

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The verdict

Lube is the easiest way to make everything feel better. More glide, less friction, longer nights.

Our No. 1: We-Vibe Touch X

Quick picks

  1. Best overallNo. 1 ↓

    We-Vibe Touch X

    $87.20 to $109

    Shop $109 at Intimatify

    Code BEDSIDE15: 15% off

  2. Runner-upNo. 2 ↓

    Liberator Wedge

    $108 to $110

    Shop $108 at SheVibe

    ships free

  3. Budget pickNo. 3 ↓

    Tantus Silk Small

    Shop $31.99 at SheVibe

At a glance

Compare the top 7

  1. 1We-Vibe Touch XWe-Vibe Touch X$87.20 to $109from 193 reviews$109 →
  2. 2Liberator WedgeLiberator Wedge$108 to $110Too new to rate$108 →
  3. 3Tantus Silk SmallTantus Silk Small$31.99Too new to rate$31.99 →
  4. 4SpareParts Joque CoverSpareParts Joque Cover$148from 11 reviews$148 →
  5. 5Dame PomDame Pom$103Too new to rate$103 →
  6. 6We-Vibe Melt 2We-Vibe Melt 2$132 to $159from 60 reviews$159 →
  7. 7Sliquid H2OSliquid H2O$13.99from 16 reviews$13.99 →

The ranking

Named toys to pick a job

Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.

How we rank

No. 1 · We-VibePhoto at the top ↑

We-Vibe Touch X

from 193 reviews$87.20 to $109
Shop $109 at IntimatifyCode BEDSIDE15: 15% offShop $109 at SheVibeships freeShop $87.20 at Pleasure Chestlower price · ships free

Ships discreetly from Intimatify

Choose a palm you can pass. Ask first. That is the choose lecture.

Pros

  • Body-safe silicone
  • IPX7 waterproof

Cons

  • External only — not meant to insert, which keeps first nights simple
  • If you already know you want a wand, skip ahead

Why it ranks: How-to-choose-lesbian names Touch X.

Official Liberator Wedge. Firm angled foam sex pillow in gray microvelvet.
Official Liberator Wedge. Firm angled foam sex pillow in gray microvelvet.
No. 2

No. 2 · Liberator

Liberator Wedge

Too new to rate$108 to $110
Shop $108 at SheVibelower price · ships freeShop $110 at Pleasure Chestships free

Ships discreetly from SheVibe

Choose foam if a bed pillow already failed the angle.

Cons

  • It is a wedge. It takes closet space
  • Cheap copies flatten. This one is still foam you notice

Why it ranks: How-to-choose-plus-Wedge.

Official Tantus Silk Small. Slim platinum silicone insertables with flared bases on white.
Official Tantus Silk Small. Slim platinum silicone insertables with flared bases on white.
No. 3

No. 3 · Tantus

Tantus Silk Small

Too new to rate$31.99
Shop $31.99 at SheVibe

Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.

Ships discreetly from SheVibe

Choose millimeters and a flare if a harness is already in the drawer.

Pros

  • Platinum-cure silicone
  • Flared base

Cons

  • Water-based lube only
  • Slim. That's the point

Why it ranks: How-to-choose-plus-Silk.

SpareParts Joque Cover harness in black.
SpareParts Joque Cover harness in black.
No. 4

No. 4 · SpareParts

SpareParts Joque Cover

from 11 reviews$148
Shop $148 at Pleasure Chestships free

Ships discreetly from Pleasure Chest

Choose a named harness if the job is straps, not a jelly kit.

Cons

  • Dildo not included. Measure the neck
  • You are paying clothing money for straps

Why it ranks: How-to-choose-plus-Joque.

Official Dame Pom in Ice. Soft palm vibrator standing on a light background.
Official Dame Pom in Ice. Soft palm vibrator standing on a light background.
No. 5

No. 5 · Dame

Dame Pom

Too new to rate$103
Shop $103 at SheVibeships free

Ships discreetly from SheVibe

Choose a pebble if a tool already felt like homework.

Pros

  • Bends to fit wherever you press it
  • Waterproof, so it rinses clean
  • Rechargeable, no batteries to buy

Cons

  • Mild next to a wand — don't expect to rattle the bed
  • Use water-based lube if you want glide

Why it ranks: How-to-choose-plus-Pom.

Sliquid H2O by Sliquid.
Sliquid H2O by Sliquid.
No. 7

No. 7 · Sliquid

Sliquid H2O

from 16 reviews$13.99
Shop $13.99 at SheVibe

Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.

Ships discreetly from SheVibe

Choose the bottle in the same cart.

Cons

  • It dries. Reapply. Keep the bottle in reach
  • Not for a long water session. That's silicone lube

Why it ranks: How-to-choose still wants H2O.

Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)

Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)

Use more than you think, reapply without apology, and match the lube to your toy. Solo, lube makes every toy feel twice as good. Don't be stingy.

The one we'd practice with is Sliquid H2O. It's thin, silky and totally unscented, and it plays nicely with every silicone toy in your drawer.

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Before you buy

Buying guide

The one on our nightstand

Sliquid H2O. Clean, slippery and no sticky finish. It's the bottle you stop thinking about, which is the point. Alone, a little extra turns a quick session into a long, slippery one.

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