First times
How to use a dilator
Liberator Wedge leads our use a dilator ranking. Real products still sold in the US, re-checked weekly.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
Lube is the easiest way to make everything feel better. More glide, less friction, longer nights.
Our No. 1: Liberator Wedge
Quick picks
At a glance
Compare the top 7
- 1
Liberator Wedge$108 to $110Too new to rate$108 → - 2
Tantus Silk Medium$42Too new to rate$42 → - 3
Tantus Silk Small$31.99Too new to rate$31.99 → - 4
We-Vibe Touch X$87.20 to $109from 193 reviews$109 → - 5
Gläs 11-inch Pelvic Wand$45.50Too new to rate$45.50 → - 6
Sliquid H2O$13.99from 16 reviews$13.99 → - 7
Sliquid Satin$14.99 to $15Too new to rate$14.99 →
The ranking
A bottle and a first size to practice on
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · LiberatorPhoto at the top ↑
Liberator Wedge
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Hips. Angle. The how-to if you are doing the work on a bed and a pillow pile already slid.
Cons
- It is a wedge. It takes closet space
- Cheap copies flatten. This one is still foam you notice
Why it ranks: How-to-plus-foam.
No. 2 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Medium
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Next size. Same flare. The how-to after Small already felt like nothing. Do not start here.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Firm. If you wanted squish, that's Vixen
- Water-based lube
Why it ranks: How-to size-step.
No. 3 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Small
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
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Slim platinum. A size in writing. The how-to shaft if a clinician already said start small and you wanted named silicone.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Slim. That's the point
- Water-based lube only
Why it ranks: How-to-dilator names Silk Small.
No. 4 · We-Vibe
We-Vibe Touch X
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
External. The how-to fork if insertable work is paused and you still wanted a motor you can take off.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
- IPX7 waterproof
Cons
- External only — not meant to insert, which keeps first nights simple
- If you already know you want a wand, skip ahead
Why it ranks: How-to leak into a palm. Category fit drops.
No. 5 · Gläs
Gläs 11-inch Pelvic Wand
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Glass. Two ends. The how-to if a pelvic floor person already named a wand. Slow. Not a first night without a plan.
Pros
- Borosilicate glass
Cons
- No flared plug base. This is a hand toy
- Long. Don't start here if No. 5 is still new
Why it ranks: How-to-plus-wand.
No. 6 · Sliquid
Sliquid H2O
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
More than you think. Water-based. The how-to if you typed dilator and forgot the bottle.
Cons
- It dries. Reapply. Keep the bottle in reach
- Not for a long water session. That's silicone lube
Why it ranks: Dilator how-to without a pour is the usual fail.
No. 7 · Sliquid
Sliquid Satin
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Moisturizer if dryness is part of the flinch. Then H2O on the toy.
Cons
- This is a moisturizer first. Don't expect gel padding
- If you want thick anal slip, that's Sassy
Why it ranks: How-to-plus-cream.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Use more than you think, reapply without apology, and match the lube to your toy. Solo, lube makes every toy feel twice as good. Don't be stingy.
Our favorite to learn on is Sliquid H2O. It's thin, silky and totally unscented, and it plays nicely with every silicone toy in your drawer.
Before you buy
Buying guide
The one on our nightstand
Sliquid H2O. Clean, slippery and no sticky finish. It's the bottle you stop thinking about, which is the point. Drizzle it on each other. Slow hands, lots of glide, nobody in a hurry.
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FAQ
Common questions
- How do you use a vaginal dilator?
- More lube than you think. Slim first. Breathe. Stop. Best vaginal dilators. Best sex toys for vaginismus.
- How often?
- Ask the person who named the work. This is a shop how-to, not a protocol.
- What if I only want external?
- Fine. How to use your first vibrator. Best first vibrator.
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