How do you use a dildo for the first time?

Name the size. Water-based lube. Slow. A flared base if it could go anal. Silk Small if Medium looks like a dare. How to use lube is the bottle lecture.

What size dildo should a beginner use?

Smaller than the internet. Silk Small is about 4.25 by 0.8. Best first dildo is the ranking. Don't go big to get it over with.

What lube with a silicone dildo?

Water-based. H2O or Sassy. Don't put silicone lube on a silicone toy. Body-safe materials if the listing hides the polymer.

Can I use a dildo anally?

Only with a flared base you can hold. How to use a butt plug is the stay lecture. How to use anal beads if you wanted a pop and a loop.

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How to use a dildo

Start small. Pour the bottle. A flare if it goes anal.

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The first three

Names first. Shop this pick opens the store page. The cards below still have the catch.

No. 1 · Sliquid

Sliquid H2O

Water-based on silicone. More than you think. Reapply. A dry shaft is how people decide dildos were a mistake.

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No. 2 · Sliquid

Sliquid Sassy

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No. 3 · Tantus

Tantus Silk Medium

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A first dildo is a size you can picture and a bottle you do not skip. That is the how-to.

Most first-dildo mistakes are the same. Too big. No lube. Jelly. No flared base on an anal night. This page is the lecture. The ranked shelf under it is the silicone I would actually start with.

If you already know the toy, skip ahead. Best first dildo is the kinder ranking. Named polymer shelf: Best silicone dildos. A curve: Best G-spot dildos. A motor: Best vibrating dildos. The shopping lecture: How to buy your first sex toy. The bottle: How to use lube. The polymer: Body-safe materials.

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How to choose

Pick a size you can picture

Insertables should list length and girth. Silk Small exists because girth is the thing people regret. Best first dildo is that list.

Pour the bottle

Water-based on silicone. More than you think. Sassy if H2O felt thin. How to use lube is the lecture.

Name the polymer

Platinum silicone, steel, or glass. Jelly fails. Body-safe materials if the listing says silicone-feel.

A flare if it goes anal

A flared base or it stays vaginal. How to use a butt plug. How to use anal beads if you wanted a loop.

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The usual mistakes

Don't go big to get it over with

A thick dildo is not a faster education. You can buy Medium later.

Don't skip the rinse

Wash it. Dry it. How to clean sex toys. Then bag it.