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How to use a dildo
Tantus Silk Medium leads our use a dildo ranking. Real products still sold in the US, re-checked weekly.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
A dildo is as simple as it gets. Warm it up, lube it up and go at whatever pace feels greedy.
Our No. 1: Tantus Silk Medium
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Named silicone to start from
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · TantusPhoto at the top ↑
Tantus Silk Medium
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
The middle Silk. About 5.5 by 1 inch. Same polymer. Same flare. The how-to after Small felt like a finger.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Firm. If you wanted squish, that's Vixen
- Water-based lube
Why it ranks: How-to search that already tried small lands here.
No. 2 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Small
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
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About 4.25 inches, 0.8 across. Named platinum. Flared base. Lube. Go slow. The how-to if Medium looks like a dare.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
Cons
- Slim. That's the point
- Water-based lube only
Why it ranks: How-to-use-a-dildo wants slim and named.
No. 3 · Tantus
Tantus Echo
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Shorter, curved Tantus. Platinum. A how-to G-spot shape if you want a bump, not length. Aim, don't stab.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Texture. If you wanted smooth, that's Silk
- Confirm whether your listing includes the bullet
Why it ranks: Curve how-to is quieter than Silk.
No. 4 · njoy
njoy Fun Wand
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Smaller njoy. Steel. Weight. Warm it in water first. More lube than silicone. The how-to if you wanted a hand, not a motor.
Pros
- Body-safe stainless steel
Cons
- More geometry. Easier to use wrong on night one
- Still a hand toy. Not a harness dildo
Why it ranks: Steel how-to lands here before Pure Wand.
No. 5 · LELO
LELO Liv 3
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
Slim internal with a motor. Gentle curve. Start on the lowest buzz. The how-to if Silk Small felt like a finger and you want motion next.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
- Rechargeable
- Waterproof
Cons
- Still insertable — go slower than the box copy
- Water-based lube only; silicone lube can wreck silicone toys
Why it ranks: First-internal-vibe how-to. Liv 3 keeps getting named because it is slim and washable.
No. 6 · Sliquid
Sliquid H2O
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Water-based on silicone. More than you think. Reapply. A dry shaft is how people decide dildos were a mistake.
Cons
- It dries. Reapply. Keep the bottle in reach
- Not for a long water session. That's silicone lube
Why it ranks: Dildo how-to without a bottle is the usual fail. H2O is the named start.
No. 7 · Sliquid
Sliquid Sassy
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Thicker gel. Stays. The how-to if H2O felt thin or the night is slower.
Cons
- Too thick for some vaginal nights. That's why H2O exists
- Still water-based. It can dry if you wait too long
Why it ranks: Padding is the second dildo lesson.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Go smaller than your ego wants, warm it up in your hands and use plenty of water-based lube. You can size up next time. Alone, go slow at first and let yourself get greedy. That's what it's for.
If you're shopping, start with Sliquid H2O. Clean, slippery and no sticky finish. It's the bottle you stop thinking about, which is the point.
Before you buy
Buying guide
Pick a size you can picture
Insertables should list length and girth. Silk Small exists because girth is the thing people regret. Best first dildo is that list.
Name the polymer
Platinum silicone, steel, or glass. Jelly fails. Body-safe materials if the listing says silicone-feel.
A flare if it goes anal
A flared base or it stays vaginal. How to use a butt plug. How to use anal beads if you wanted a loop.
Read this first
Mistakes to avoid
Don't go big to get it over with
A thick dildo is not a faster education. You can buy Medium later.
Don't skip the rinse
Wash it. Dry it. How to clean sex toys. Then bag it.
FAQ
Common questions
- How do you use a dildo for the first time?
- Name the size. Water-based lube. Slow. A flared base if it could go anal. Silk Small if you'd like to start slimmer.
- What size dildo should a beginner use?
- Smaller than the internet. Silk Small is about 4.25 by 0.8. Best first dildo is the ranking. Don't go big to get it over with.
- What lube with a silicone dildo?
- Water-based. H2O or Sassy. Don't put silicone lube on a silicone toy. Body-safe materials if the listing hides the polymer.
- Can I use a dildo anally?
- Only with a flared base you can hold. How to use anal beads if you wanted a pop and a loop.
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