First times
Best first strap-on night
Sportsheets Plush Strap On leads our first strap-on night ranking for beginners. Re-checked weekly.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
The one that never leaves the nightstand? Sportsheets Plush Strap On. Soft straps, a firm O-ring and enough grip that you can focus on your partner instead of fiddling with buckles.
Quick picks
Best overallNo. 1 ↓
Sportsheets Plush Strap On
Runner-upNo. 2 ↓
Tantus Silk Small
Budget pickNo. 3 ↓
Sportsheets Breathable Strap On
$41.99 to $42
Shop $42 at SheVibe
At a glance
Compare the top 7
- 1
Sportsheets Plush Strap On$45Too new to rate$45 → - 2
Tantus Silk Small$31.99Too new to rate$31.99 → - 3
Sportsheets Breathable Strap On$41.99 to $42Too new to rate$42 → - 4
SpareParts Joque Cover$148from 11 reviews$148 → - 5
Sliquid Sassy$13.99Too new to rate$13.99 → - 6
Sliquid H2O$13.99from 16 reviews$13.99 → - 7
Sliquid Shine 8.5 oz$15.99Too new to rate$15.99 →
The ranking
The full ranking
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · SportsheetsPhoto at the top ↑
Sportsheets Plush Strap On
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Soft straps. Named Sportsheets. First strap-on night if Joque already felt like homework.
Cons
- Dildo not included
- Plush holds lint. Wash it
Why it ranks: First-strap-night search should start kind, not costume leather.
No. 2 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Small
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Slim flared. First shaft. The dildo the harness is for.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Slim. That's the point
- Water-based lube only
Why it ranks: First-night-plus-Silk.
No. 3 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Breathable Strap On
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Named straps. Air. The first harness if Plush already felt like fleece.
Cons
- Dildo not included
- Bullet pocket is empty until you add a bullet
Why it ranks: First-night-plus-breathable.
No. 4 · SpareParts
SpareParts Joque Cover
Ships discreetly from Pleasure Chest
The nicer jockey. On the list so first-night search sees the step up.
Cons
- Dildo not included. Measure the neck
- You are paying clothing money for straps
Why it ranks: First-night fit drops if you skip talk.
No. 5 · Sliquid
Sliquid Sassy
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Thicker gel. First pegging-adjacent night wants stay.
Cons
- Too thick for some vaginal nights. That's why H2O exists
- Still water-based. It can dry if you wait too long
Why it ranks: First-night-plus-Sassy.
No. 6 · Sliquid
Sliquid H2O
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
If Sassy already felt like too much.
Cons
- It dries. Reapply. Keep the bottle in reach
- Not for a long water session. That's silicone lube
Why it ranks: First-night-plus-H2O.
No. 7 · Sliquid
Sliquid Shine 8.5 oz
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Rinse the shaft. Rinse the straps.
Cons
- Tea tree is a smell. Patch a wrist if oils bother you
- Soap and water still count. This is not magic
Why it ranks: First-night-plus-cleaner.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Want something a little different? Tantus Silk Small. Soft, smooth and beginner-friendly. The perfect first thing to put in a harness. Sportsheets Breathable Strap On rounds out the top three.
Start with a smaller, softer dildo, cinch the harness tighter than feels necessary, and keep lube within reach. Confidence comes fast.
Before you buy
Buying guide
The talk
How to introduce sex toys to your partner. How to put on a strap-on harness.
Wandering eyes?
Best pegging harnesses goes a little wider. best strap-ons for filming is where we'd look next.
FAQ
Common questions
- What should we buy for a first strap-on night?
- Plush straps. Silk Small. Sassy. How to put on a strap-on harness. How to introduce sex toys to your partner.
- Pegging first night?
- Best pegging harnesses. How to start pegging.
- Filming the first night?
- Maybe don't. Best strap-ons for filming after you already know the put-on.
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