First times
How to use a strap-on
Liberator Wedge leads our use a strap-on ranking. Real products still sold in the US, re-checked weekly.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
Strapping on for the first time feels a little silly for about a minute. Then it feels powerful.
Our No. 1: Liberator Wedge
Quick picks
Best overallNo. 1 ↓
Liberator Wedge
Runner-upNo. 2 ↓
Tantus Silk Small
Budget pickNo. 4 ↓
Sportsheets Dual Desires
$36 to $36.99
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At a glance
Compare the top 7
- 1
Liberator Wedge$108 to $110Too new to rate$108 → - 2
Tantus Silk Small$31.99Too new to rate$31.99 → - 3
Tantus Silk Medium$42Too new to rate$42 → - 4
Sportsheets Dual Desires$36 to $36.99Too new to rate$36 → - 5
Sportsheets Saffron Silicone Pegging Kit$48 to $48.95Too new to rate$48 → - 6
Sliquid H2O$13.99from 16 reviews$13.99 → - 7
Sliquid Sassy$13.99Too new to rate$13.99 →
The ranking
Named harnesses and shafts to practice on
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · LiberatorPhoto at the top ↑
Liberator Wedge
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An angle that holds. The how-to if knees already voted.
Cons
- It is a wedge. It takes closet space
- Cheap copies flatten. This one is still foam you notice
Why it ranks: Strap-on how-to plus foam.
No. 2 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Small
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Slim platinum. Flared. The how-to shaft if Medium looks like a dare. Water-based. Go slow.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Water-based lube only
- Slim. That's the point
Why it ranks: How-to wants millimeters.
No. 3 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Medium
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The middle Silk. Same flare. The how-to after Small felt like a finger.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Water-based lube
- Still smooth. If you wanted texture, that's a different toy
Why it ranks: How-to that already tried small.
No. 4 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Dual Desires
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Simple straps. Clear O-ring. Fewer buckles. The first harness if Joque felt like homework and Breathable still looked like a project.
Cons
- Not all-day clothing. That's Joque
- Dildo not included
Why it ranks: Who it's for: night one straps, under forty, no drama.
No. 5 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Saffron Silicone Pegging Kit
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One box. Harness plus slim silicone. The how-to if you wanted a starter kit and you will still buy better lube.
Pros
- Silicone dildo
Cons
- The included dildo is slim on purpose. You may outgrow it
- Confirm the current kit contents on the card
Why it ranks: How-to-kit search.
No. 6 · Sliquid
Sliquid H2O
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More than you think. Reapply. A dry shaft is how people decide strap-ons were a mistake.
Cons
- It dries. Reapply. Keep the bottle in reach
- Not for a long water session. That's silicone lube
Why it ranks: Strap-on how-to without a bottle is the usual fail.
No. 7 · Sliquid
Sliquid Sassy
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Thicker gel. The how-to if H2O felt thin or the night is pegging-slow.
Cons
- Too thick for some vaginal nights. That's why H2O exists
- Still water-based. It can dry if you wait too long
Why it ranks: Padding is the second strap-on lesson.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Start with a smaller, softer dildo, cinch the harness tighter than feels necessary, and keep lube within reach. Confidence comes fast. Wearing it solo for a minute takes the nerves out. Walk around, get used to the weight, grin a little.
If you're shopping, start with Sliquid H2O. Clean, slippery and no sticky finish. It's the bottle you stop thinking about, which is the point.
Before you buy
Buying guide
Straps before skin
Adjust dressed. Phoenix if you want named straps. Best beginner strap-ons. Best strap-on harnesses.
Slim and flared
Silk Small. How to choose a dildo. How to use a dildo. Best harness compatible dildos.
Lube. Angle.
H2O, then Sassy if it is slow. A Wedge if knees vote. How to use lube. How to use a sex wedge.
Read this first
Mistakes to avoid
Don't start on Large
Best thick dildos is later. Best slim dildos is the start.
FAQ
Common questions
- How do you use a strap-on?
- Adjust the harness dressed. Slim named silicone. More lube than you think. Go slow. How to choose a dildo if you have not named a girth.
- What dildo goes in a strap-on?
- A flared base. Silk Small to start. Best harness compatible dildos. Best beginner strap-ons.
- Do I need a kit?
- A kit is fine. Phoenix plus Silk is better. How to use lube.
- Is strapless easier?
- Usually not. Plan on a harness anyway. Best strapless strap-ons.
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