First times
How to size a strap-on harness
SpareParts Joque Cover leads our size a strap-on harness ranking. Real products still sold in the US, re-checked weekly.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
Strapping on for the first time feels a little silly for about a minute. Then it feels powerful.
Our No. 1: SpareParts Joque Cover
Quick picks
Best overallNo. 1 ↓
SpareParts Joque Cover
Shop $148 at Pleasure Chestships free
Runner-upNo. 2 ↓
Tantus Silk Small
Budget pickNo. 6 ↓
Sportsheets Dual Desires
$36 to $36.99
Shop $36 at SheVibe
At a glance
Compare the top 7
- 1
SpareParts Joque Cover$148from 11 reviews$148 → - 2
Tantus Silk Small$31.99Too new to rate$31.99 → - 3
Sportsheets Plush Strap On$45Too new to rate$45 → - 4
Sportsheets Breathable Strap On$41.99 to $42Too new to rate$42 → - 5
Sportsheets Curvy Divine Strap On$53Too new to rate$53 → - 6
Sportsheets Dual Desires$36 to $36.99Too new to rate$36 → - 7
Packer Gear Brief Packing Harness$39Too new to rate$39 →
The ranking
Named harnesses with numbers on the card
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · SparePartsPhoto at the top ↑
SpareParts Joque Cover
Ships discreetly from Pleasure Chest
Clothing sizes. Read SpareParts, not a costume S-M-L. Measure.
Cons
- Dildo not included. Measure the neck
- You are paying clothing money for straps
Why it ranks: Joque sizing. Reviews mention the fit more than the photo.
No. 2 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Small
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Neck millimeters after the hip number. Ring size is a second measurement.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Water-based lube only
- Slim. That's the point
Why it ranks: Harness sizing without a dildo is half a lecture.
No. 3 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Plush Strap On
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
To 72. Three rings. Size the hip first, the hole second.
Cons
- Dildo not included
- Plush holds lint. Wash it
Why it ranks: Plus-travel sizing. SheVibe lists it.
No. 4 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Breathable Strap On
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
To 60. Mesh. Measure again after a meal if the last nylon lied.
Cons
- Dildo not included
- Bullet pocket is empty until you add a bullet
Why it ranks: Breathable sizing.
No. 5 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Curvy Divine Strap On
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
28 to 82 inch hips. Thigh openings to 44. The chart if 72 still lied.
Cons
- Dildo not included
- More straps means more first-night fiddling
Why it ranks: Curvy sizing.
No. 6 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Dual Desires
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Simple straps. Clear O-ring. Fewer buckles. The first harness if Joque felt like homework and Breathable still looked like a project.
Cons
- Not all-day clothing. That's Joque
- Dildo not included
Why it ranks: Who it's for: night one straps, under forty, no drama.
No. 7 · CalExotics
Packer Gear Brief Packing Harness
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Waist 32 to 34 on the medium/large card. The number is the product.
Cons
- Waist number is the product. Measure
- Packer not in the box
Why it ranks: Brief sizing. Don't guess from a model.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Start with a smaller, softer dildo, cinch the harness tighter than feels necessary, and keep lube within reach. Confidence comes fast. Try it on alone in front of a mirror first. It's how you find the fit that makes you feel hot, and you will feel hot.
Our favorite to learn on is SpareParts Joque Cover. It looks and feels like a pair of soft boxer briefs, and the O-ring holds the dildo steady while you move.
Sizing a strapless instead? Read the Strap-on-Me size guide
Before you buy
Buying guide
The one that stays put
SpareParts Joque Cover. Underwear-soft, machine washable and snug enough that you forget it's there, until you really don't. With a partner, go slow, grab hips and use way more lube than you think. The first time someone moans under you is a whole new kind of power.
Still looking?
Different mood tonight? Try how to choose an O-ring, or best beginner strap-on harnesses if you want to wander further.
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Mistakes to avoid
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FAQ
Common questions
- How do you size a strap-on harness?
- Measure hips. Read the inch number on the card. How to choose a strap-on.
- What if I am plus-size?
- Plush to 72. Curvy Divine to 82. Best plus-size sex toys.
- Do clothing sizes work?
- Joque uses clothing sizes. Read SpareParts. Best strap-on harnesses.
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