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Anniversary Night Setup: LELO Sila, LELO Tor 3, Massage Candle and Blindfold
Another year together deserves more than dinner. Here's a full night with a little luxury and a lot of slow.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
Best for most peopleUpdated
Start with a massage oil candle and a satin blindfold, then bring out the LELO Sila ($169) and LELO Tor 3 ($159). The whole setup is $351.94.
- For her: LELO Sila (No. 1) Shop $169 →
- For you both: LELO Tor 3 (No. 2) Shop $159 →
- The slow start: 3 in 1 Massage Candle, Kashmir Musk (No. 3) Shop $14.95 →
- The surprise: Sex & Mischief Satin Black Blindfold (No. 4) Shop $8.99 →
The verdict
Start with a warm Earthly Body massage candle ($14.95) and a satin blindfold ($8.99). Then bring out the LELO Sila ($169), a soft sonic clit toy, and the LELO Tor 3 ($159), a vibrating ring you both feel. The whole setup is $351.94.
- For her: LELO Sila, a gentle sonic clit toy with 896 owner reviews, $169.
- For you both: LELO Tor 3, a vibrating ring with eight patterns, $159.
- The mood: a massage oil candle and a satin blindfold, under $24 together.
Quick picks
For herNo. 1 ↓
LELO Sila
For you bothNo. 2 ↓
LELO Tor 3
The slow startNo. 3 ↓
3 in 1 Massage Candle, Kashmir Musk
Warm oil massage
Shop $14.95 at Pleasure ChestThe surpriseNo. 4 ↓
Sex & Mischief Satin Black Blindfold
$7.95 to $8.99Soft satin, $8.99
Shop $8.99 at SheVibe
Quick answers
- What is the best anniversary night setup?
- Start with a massage oil candle and a satin blindfold, then bring out the LELO Sila ($169) and LELO Tor 3 ($159). The whole setup is $351.94.
- Where can I buy the LELO Sila?
- We link to Intimatify and SheVibe. Every store gets the same size button on the card, and prices are re-checked when we update the guide.
- How do you rank these?
- By what people actually buy and search for, owner reviews, whether it is in stock, and how well it fits this list. Stores pay us a commission on some links, but that never moves a rank.
At a glance
Compare the top 5
The ranking
The anniversary night setup, piece by piece
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · LELOPhoto at the top ↑
For her
LELO Sila
Gentle sonic pulses
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
Softer LELO sonic. Wider, gentler mouth than Sona. Eight patterns. Built for people who found Sona too much.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
- Waterproof
Cons
- Mild next to Sona 2
- Wide mouth. Wrong if you want a pinpoint hole
Why it ranks: The gift for her. A soft sonic toy that builds slow, with a wide mouth that's gentle at first.
No. 2 · LELO
For you both
LELO Tor 3
Eight patterns, app optional
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
LELO's soft silicone ring with eight patterns and an optional app. The thick motor bump faces a partner during sex.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
- Rechargeable
- Waterproof
Cons
- App is extra. The button works
- Lube. Dry silicone grabs the same as every other ring
Why it ranks: The one you share. A soft ring with eight patterns and an optional app, with the motor bump facing her during sex.
No. 3 · Earthly Body
The slow start
3 in 1 Massage Candle, Kashmir Musk
Warm oil massage
Ships discreetly from Pleasure Chest
A hemp seed candle that melts a few degrees above body temperature into a warm massage oil. Kashmir Musk blends brandy, magnolia and vanilla musk.
Pros
- Candlelight first, a rich rubdown after
- Sinks in without feeling greasy
- Smells like a cozy evening
Cons
- Blow it out and let it cool a moment before pouring
- Oil and latex condoms don't mix
Why it ranks: The slow start. A candle that melts into warm massage oil.
No. 4 · Sportsheets
The surprise
Sex & Mischief Satin Black Blindfold
Soft satin, $8.99
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
A soft satin blindfold with an elastic strap. Easy, simple and fun to unwrap.
Cons
- Elastic can pinch hair. Check the strap
- A word you can say with it on
Why it ranks: The surprise. A soft satin blindfold that makes every touch a little unexpected.
No. 5 · We-Vibe
We-Vibe Pivot 2
Simple ring, $129
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
A soft, stretchy ring at the base with a motor bump you turn toward your clit. Every time your hips meet, it buzzes right there. They stay harder, you come sooner.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
- Rechargeable motor
- IPX7 waterproof
Cons
- Twenty to thirty minutes on, then off
- Lube the inside of the band first
Why it ranks: The swap. A stretchy vibrating ring for $129 if you'd rather keep things simple.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
An anniversary is a great excuse to slow everything down. Start with warm oil and a blindfold, then trade in two LELO toys made to feel indulgent: one just for her, one you both feel.
Here's the full setup, each piece in stock at the price shown, plus a simpler ring swap if you'd rather spend less.
Before you buy
Buying guide
Why the Sila
It's LELO's softer sonic toy, with a wide mouth that pulses rather than sucks hard. 896 LELO owners rate it 4.6 out of 5. It's waterproof and $169 at Intimatify and SheVibe today.
Why the Tor 3
It's LELO's ring with eight patterns and an app if you want one, and the motor bump faces her during sex. It's $159 at Intimatify and SheVibe today.
Spending less
The We-Vibe Pivot 2 is a simpler, stretchy vibrating ring for $129, which brings the setup to $321.94.
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Mistakes to avoid
How the night goes
Light the candle while you eat. Afterward, blow it out, wait a moment, then pour the warm oil into your palm and take turns with the massage. Blindfold on, and let the Sila find its way in slowly. Save the Tor 3 for last.
After
Wash the toys with warm water and mild soap, let them air dry, and keep the blindfold for next year.
Torn between two?
Head-to-head
FAQ
Common questions
- What's a good anniversary sex gift for couples?
- A night you open together. This setup is $351.94 with the LELO Sila, LELO Tor 3, a Kashmir Musk candle that melts into oil, and a blindfold.
- Is the LELO Sila good for beginners?
- Yes. It's softer than LELO's Sona line, with a wide mouth that feels gentle at first and builds.
- Can massage oil go on sex toys?
- Keep it off. Wipe the oil away before toys and condoms come out, and use a water-based lube instead.
- Is the LELO Tor 3 waterproof?
- Yes, and it's rechargeable, with eight patterns and an optional app.
- Is there a cheaper ring?
- The We-Vibe Pivot 2 is $129 and simpler to use, which brings the night to $321.94.
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