First times
How to choose a strap-on harness
SpareParts Joque Cover leads our choose a strap-on harness ranking. Real products still sold in the US, re-checked weekly.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
Strapping on for the first time feels a little silly for about a minute. Then it feels powerful.
Our No. 1: SpareParts Joque Cover
Quick picks
Best overallNo. 1 ↓
SpareParts Joque Cover
Shop $148 at Pleasure Chestships free
Runner-upNo. 2 ↓
Vixen Mustang
Shop $125.75 at SheVibeships free
Budget pickNo. 4 ↓
Tantus Silk Small
At a glance
Compare the top 8
- 1
SpareParts Joque Cover$148from 11 reviews$148 → - 2
Vixen Mustang$125.75from 16 reviews$125.75 → - 3
Vixen Maverick$129.50from 10 reviews$129.50 → - 4
Tantus Silk Small$31.99Too new to rate$31.99 → - 5
Tantus Silk Medium$42Too new to rate$42 → - 6
Sportsheets Breathable Strap On$41.99 to $42Too new to rate$42 → - 7
Sportsheets Plush Strap On$45Too new to rate$45 → - 8
Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Kit$89.99Too new to rate$89.99 →
The ranking
The full ranking
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · SparePartsPhoto at the top ↑
SpareParts Joque Cover
Ships discreetly from Pleasure Chest
Joque. Stretch O-ring. The harness people mean.
Cons
- Dildo not included. Measure the neck
- You are paying clothing money for straps
Why it ranks: Harness search that wants Joque.
No. 2 · Vixen Creations
Vixen Mustang
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Mustang. Dual-density. Flared.
Pros
- Flared base
Cons
- Read the size chart. Names are not a scale
- Water-based lube. Harness not included
Why it ranks: Harness-plus-Mustang.
No. 3 · Vixen Creations
Vixen Maverick
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Maverick. Realistic VixSkin.
Pros
- VixSkin dual-density silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Water-based lube. Silicone lube can damage silicone
- Heavier than a Silk. That's the skin
Why it ranks: Harness-plus-Maverick.
No. 4 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Small
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Silk Small. Platinum. First night size.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Water-based lube only
- Slim. That's the point
Why it ranks: Harness-plus-SilkSmall.
No. 5 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Medium
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Silk Medium. Flared.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Water-based lube
- Still smooth. If you wanted texture, that's a different toy
Why it ranks: Harness-plus-SilkMed.
No. 6 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Breathable Strap On
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Breathable straps.
Cons
- Dildo not included
- Bullet pocket is empty until you add a bullet
Why it ranks: Harness-plus-Breathable.
No. 7 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Plush Strap On
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Plush padding.
Cons
- Dildo not included
- Plush holds lint. Wash it
Why it ranks: Harness-plus-Plush.
No. 8 · Tantus
Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Kit
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Bend Over kit. Named.
Pros
- Platinum silicone dildos
Cons
- Intermediate in the name. Believe it
- Bullet takes a battery. Check the card
Why it ranks: Harness-plus-BendOver.
No. 9 · Tantus
Tantus Silk Large
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Silk Large.
Pros
- Platinum-cure silicone
- Flared base
Cons
- Larger. Don't start here
- Water-based lube
Why it ranks: Harness-plus-SilkLarge.
No. 10 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Dual Desires
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Simple straps. Clear O-ring. Fewer buckles. The first harness if Joque felt like homework and Breathable still looked like a project.
Cons
- Not all-day clothing. That's Joque
- Dildo not included
Why it ranks: Who it's for: night one straps, under forty, no drama.
More ranked picks
No. 11 · Strap-on-Me
Strap-on-Me Silicone Strapless — Small
Strapless Small if you'd rather skip the harness entirely.
Too new to rate
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
No. 12 · Sportsheets
Sportsheets Saffron Silicone Pegging Kit
Saffron pegging kit.
Too new to rate
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
No. 13 · Sliquid
Sliquid Sassy
Thicker water-based.
Too new to rate
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
No. 14 · Sliquid
Sliquid Shine 2 oz
Travel Shine.
from 17 reviews
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Start with a smaller, softer dildo, cinch the harness tighter than feels necessary, and keep lube within reach. Confidence comes fast. Try it on alone in front of a mirror first. It's how you find the fit that makes you feel hot, and you will feel hot.
The one we'd practice with is SpareParts Joque Cover. It looks and feels like a pair of soft boxer briefs, and the O-ring holds the dildo steady while you move.
Before you buy
Buying guide
Why this harness wins
SpareParts Joque Cover. Underwear-soft, machine washable and snug enough that you forget it's there, until you really don't. Wearing it solo for a minute takes the nerves out. Walk around, get used to the weight, grin a little.
Wandering eyes?
Different mood tonight? Try best harness-compatible dildos, or how to choose a strap-on if you want to wander further.
More specific lists
FAQ
Common questions
- Joque or Breathable?
- Joque for stretch O-ring. Breathable for a calmer cart. Best strap-on harnesses.
- Which dildo?
- Mustang or Silk Small. Best harness-compatible dildos.
- Pegging first night?
- Best pegging harnesses for beginners.
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