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How to use a prostate massager with a partner
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Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
Prostate play is slow and deep, and the payoff is a full-body orgasm people struggle to describe.
Our No. 1: Aneros Helix Syn Trident
Quick picks
Best overallNo. 1 ↓
Aneros Helix Syn Trident
Shop $69.95 at SheVibeships free
Runner-upNo. 2 ↓
njoy Pure Wand
Shop $150 at SheVibeships free
Also greatNo. 3 ↓
We-Vibe Tango X
At a glance
Compare the top 7
- 1
Aneros Helix Syn Trident$69.95Too new to rate$69.95 → - 2
njoy Pure Wand$150from 24 reviews$150 → - 3
We-Vibe Tango X$72 to $85from 324 reviews$85 → - 4
We-Vibe Vector+$119.20 to $149Too new to rate$139 → - 5
We-Vibe Verge 2$139Too new to rate$139 → - 6
Sliquid H2O$13.99from 16 reviews$13.99 → - 7
Sliquid Sassy$13.99Too new to rate$13.99 →
The ranking
Named prostate toys you can share
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · AnerosPhoto at the top ↑
Aneros Helix Syn Trident
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Hands-free. A tab. Someone else can stay at the front. The how-to partner Helix.
Pros
- Silicone coating
Cons
- Hands-free takes practice. Night one can feel like nothing
- No motor. If you wanted buzz, that's Helix Syn V or Hugo 2
Why it ranks: How-to-partner-prostate names Helix.
No. 2 · njoy
njoy Pure Wand
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Steel. Someone else can hold the S. Slow. The how-to if a motor already felt loud.
Pros
- Body-safe stainless steel
Cons
- Hard. Go slower than silicone
- Heavy. If your hands tire, this is a lot
Why it ranks: How-to-plus-njoy.
No. 3 · We-Vibe
We-Vibe Tango X
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
A point on the perineum. On the how-to if a plug already felt like night two.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone grip
- IPX7 waterproof
Cons
- Pinpoint. Not a wand
- External only
Why it ranks: How-to leak into Tango.
No. 4 · We-Vibe
We-Vibe Vector+
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
Prostate-shaped vibrating plug. Perineum arm. Remote. App. Adjustable. Hands-free if the base sits. A plug with a job, not a silent weight.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
- Rechargeable
- Waterproof
Cons
- If you wanted a simple weighted plug, this is the wrong aisle
- The arm is a specific extra. Some people hate it
Why it ranks: Remote-controlled plug with an adjustable perineum arm.
No. 5 · We-Vibe
We-Vibe Verge 2
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
A ring. Perineum motor. The how-to if insertable already voted later and you still wanted a shared night.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
- Rechargeable
- IPX7 waterproof
Cons
- This is not inside. Don't buy it expecting a Helix
- The arm pokes some people. That's the review
Why it ranks: How-to leak into Verge. Plug fit drops.
No. 6 · Sliquid
Sliquid H2O
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
If Sassy already felt like paste. Still reapply.
Cons
- It dries. Reapply. Keep the bottle in reach
- Not for a long water session. That's silicone lube
Why it ranks: How-to still buys H2O.
No. 7 · Sliquid
Sliquid Sassy
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Gel. More than you think. The how-to bottle.
Cons
- Too thick for some vaginal nights. That's why H2O exists
- Still water-based. It can dry if you wait too long
Why it ranks: Partner prostate still wants Sassy.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Lots of thick lube, a relaxed body and patience. The first time is exploring, not a race. Alone, give yourself time and no expectations. The first shaky, full-body wave is worth the patience.
Our favorite to learn on is Sliquid H2O. Clean, slippery and no sticky finish. It's the bottle you stop thinking about, which is the point.
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Before you buy
Buying guide
The one to start with
Aneros Helix Syn Trident. The curve finds the prostate almost on its own, and the pressure builds into a deep, rolling ache that's hard to describe. With a partner, have them work it slowly while they go down on you. Try not to wake the neighbors.
The talk
How to introduce sex toys to your partner. Best prostate toys for couples.
FAQ
Common questions
- How do you use a prostate massager with a partner?
- They can stay at the front. Helix if hands-free. How to use a prostate massager. How to find your prostate.
- A remote?
- Hugo 2. Best app-controlled prostate massagers.
- Not insertable yet?
- Verge or Tango on the perineum. Best perineum massagers.
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