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How to use a wand on a partner

Someone else holds the handle. Lowest rumble. A cloth if hips jump.

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The verdict

A wand is all rumble. You don't need to do much besides hold it where it feels good and breathe.

Our No. 1: Magic Wand Rechargeable

Quick picks

  1. Best overallNo. 1 ↓

    Magic Wand Rechargeable

    $149.99 to $160.95

    Shop $149.99 at SheVibe

    ships free

  2. Runner-upNo. 2 ↓

    Magic Wand Mini

    $95 to $102.50

    Shop $95 at SheVibe

    ships free

  3. Budget pickNo. 4 ↓

    We-Vibe Tango X

    $72 to $85

    Shop $85 at Intimatify

    Use code BEDSIDE15: 15% off

At a glance

Compare the top 7

  1. 1Magic Wand RechargeableMagic Wand Rechargeable$149.99 to $160.95from 17 reviews$149.99 →
  2. 2Magic Wand MiniMagic Wand Mini$95 to $102.50Too new to rate$95 →
  3. 3We-Vibe Touch XWe-Vibe Touch X$87.20 to $109from 193 reviews$109 →
  4. 4We-Vibe Tango XWe-Vibe Tango X$72 to $85from 324 reviews$85 →
  5. 5We-Vibe Wand 2We-Vibe Wand 2$135.20 to $169Too new to rate$169 →
  6. 6Le Wand RechargeableLe Wand Rechargeable$150Too new to rate$150 →
  7. 7Sliquid H2OSliquid H2O$13.99from 16 reviews$13.99 →

The ranking

Named handles someone else can aim

Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.

How we rank

No. 1 · Vibratex / Magic WandPhoto at the top ↑

Magic Wand Rechargeable

from 17 reviews$149.99 to $160.95
Shop $149.99 at SheVibelower price · ships freeShop $160.95 at Pleasure Chestships free

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Broad head. A cloth if hips jump.

Pros

  • Silicone head and neck
  • Rechargeable, or wall plug

Cons

  • Full size. Heavy. Loud on high. Not waterproof
  • Broad head. Skip it if you only want a pinpoint

Why it ranks: How-to-wand-on-a-partner names Rechargeable. Reviews mention the wrist of the holder.

Official Magic Wand Mini. Compact white wand on a studio background.
Official Magic Wand Mini. Compact white wand on a studio background.
No. 2

No. 2 · Vibratex / Magic Wand

Magic Wand Mini

Too new to rate$95 to $102.50
Shop $95 at SheVibelower price · ships freeShop $102.50 at Pleasure Chestships free

Ships discreetly from SheVibe

Shorter. Easier to aim on a body that moves. The how-to if full-size already felt like a lamp.

Pros

  • Silicone head
  • Rechargeable handle

Cons

  • Not the same brute force as the full-size
  • Still louder than air-pulse

Why it ranks: How-to-plus-Mini.

Official We-Vibe Touch X. Palm-sized lay-on vibe on white.
Official We-Vibe Touch X. Palm-sized lay-on vibe on white.
No. 3

No. 3 · We-Vibe

We-Vibe Touch X

from 193 reviews$87.20 to $109
Shop $109 at IntimatifyCode BEDSIDE15: 15% offShop $109 at SheVibeships freeShop $87.20 at Pleasure Chestlower price · ships free

Ships discreetly from Intimatify

A palm you can press. On the how-to if a wand head already felt huge on a partner.

Pros

  • Body-safe silicone
  • IPX7 waterproof

Cons

  • External only — not meant to insert, which keeps first nights simple
  • If you already know you want a wand, skip ahead

Why it ranks: How-to leak into Touch X.

Official We-Vibe Tango X kit. Pink lipstick-size bullet with pouch, cable, and box on white.
Official We-Vibe Tango X kit. Pink lipstick-size bullet with pouch, cable, and box on white.
No. 4

No. 4 · We-Vibe

We-Vibe Tango X

from 324 reviews$72 to $85
Shop $85 at IntimatifyUse code BEDSIDE15: 15% offShop $85 at SheVibeships freeShop $72 at Pleasure Chestlower price

Ships discreetly from Intimatify

A point. The how-to if the job was pinpoint, not a plate.

Pros

  • Body-safe silicone grip
  • IPX7 waterproof

Cons

  • Pinpoint. Not a wand
  • External only

Why it ranks: How-to leak into Tango.

Official We-Vibe Wand 2. Compact wand on white.
Official We-Vibe Wand 2. Compact wand on white.
No. 5

No. 5 · We-Vibe

We-Vibe Wand 2

Too new to rate$135.20 to $169
Shop $169 at IntimatifyCode BEDSIDE15: 15% offShop $169 at SheVibeships freeShop $135.20 at Pleasure Chestlower price · ships free

Ships discreetly from Intimatify

Softer pitch. The how-to if Magic Wand already felt like a construction site.

Pros

  • Silicone head
  • Rechargeable handle
  • App optional

Cons

  • You pay We-Vibe money for less brute force than a Magic Wand
  • App is extra. The buttons work

Why it ranks: How-to-plus-Wand 2.

Le Wand Rechargeable wand massager in pearl white with a rose-gold collar, on white.
Le Wand Rechargeable wand massager in pearl white with a rose-gold collar, on white.
No. 6

No. 6 · Le Wand

Le Wand Rechargeable

Too new to rate$150
Shop $150 at SheVibeships free

Ships discreetly from SheVibe

A pearl-white wand with a soft silicone head and a deep, rolling rumble that sinks in instead of skittering across the surface. Ten speeds, twenty patterns, a travel lock, and hours of play on one charge. Press it flat, breathe out, and let it take its time.

Pros

  • Rechargeable

Cons

  • Not waterproof. Keep it out of the bath
  • Full-size and weighty. Not a purse toy

Why it ranks: Owners keep saying how rumbly it is for a cordless wand and how solid it feels in the hand. SheVibe's few reviews average 4.7. The fair knock: it can't go in the water, and some of the price is the finish.

Sliquid H2O by Sliquid.
Sliquid H2O by Sliquid.
No. 7

No. 7 · Sliquid

Sliquid H2O

from 16 reviews$13.99
Shop $13.99 at SheVibe

Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.

Ships discreetly from SheVibe

A drop on the head. Dry rumble on a partner is a skip.

Cons

  • It dries. Reapply. Keep the bottle in reach
  • Not for a long water session. That's silicone lube

Why it ranks: How-to still wants H2O.

Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)

Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)

Start on the lowest setting through underwear. The full-power rumble is a lot, in the best way. Solo, start through fabric on low. When you're ready, go direct and hold on to something.

Our favorite to learn on is Magic Wand Rechargeable. The classic, minus the cord. That deep, thumping rumble goes right through you.

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