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Best beginner anal positions (and the toys that make them easier)
Comfort beats creativity the first few times. These positions keep you relaxed and in control.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
Side-lying is the most comfortable first anal position because your muscles stay relaxed and you can pause easily. Warm up first with a small plug from the MERCI Tush Trainer kit and use plenty of thick lube like Sliquid Sassy.
Our No. 1: MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit
- Easiest first position: side-lying.
- Warm up with: MERCI Tush Trainer.
- Lube: Sliquid Sassy, and lots of it.
Quick picks
Best warm-up kitNo. 1 ↓
MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit
Why it's here: Three sizes to size up slowly.
$43 to $47.95
Shop $43 at SheVibeBest lubeNo. 4 ↓
Sliquid Sassy
Weighted plugNo. 2 ↓
b-Vibe Snug Plug 1
Lift and relaxNo. 5 ↓
Liberator Wedge
At a glance
Compare the top 6
- 1
MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug KitBest warm-up kit$43 to $47.95Too new to rate$43 → - 2
b-Vibe Snug Plug 1Weighted plug$45Too new to rate$45 → - 3
b-Vibe Novice Plug$110 to $123.95Too new to rate$110 → - 4
Sliquid SassyBest lube$13.99Too new to rate$13.99 → - 5
Liberator WedgeLift and relax$108 to $110Too new to rate$108 → - 6
Magic Wand Mini$95 to $102.50Too new to rate$95 →
Try these
The positions
1. Side-lying
Lie on your side with your top knee bent toward your chest. Your muscles relax naturally here, and you or your partner can go as slowly as you like. Start with the smallest Tush Trainer plug.
MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit
2. Receiver on top
Straddle your partner or sit back onto a toy so you control the angle, depth and speed. Pause whenever you like; nobody moves unless you do.
Sliquid Sassy
3. Lying flat with a lift
Lie on your stomach with a wedge under your hips. It is relaxed, slightly shallow, and lets your partner kiss your back and shoulders the whole time.
4. Knees up on your back
Lie back with knees drawn toward your chest and a pillow or wedge under your hips. You can look at each other, talk, and reach a vibrator to your front.
5. Wearing a plug during other sex
Pop in a small weighted plug and keep it in during whatever else you are doing. It is a great way to get used to fullness before trying anything bigger.
b-Vibe Snug Plug 1
6. Child's pose
Knees wide, chest down on a pillow, hips up. Gentler than classic doggy because your body is supported, and it opens the angle naturally.
The ranking
Beginner anal toys for these positions, ranked
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · Doc JohnsonPhoto at the top ↑
Best warm-up kit
MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit
CSO Review: owned by our teamShips discreetly from SheVibe
Three graduated velvet-touch silicone plugs (4, 5, and 6 inches) with slim tapered tips and curved T-bar bases that sit comfortably between the cheeks.
Pros
- Small, medium, and large plugs in one starter kit
- Soft necks bend naturally as you sit or walk
- Non-porous platinum silicone washes clean with soap and water
Cons
- Non-vibrating set; pair with an external vibrator if you want buzz
- Silicone requires water-based lube, not silicone lube
Why it ranks: Best warm-up kit: three silicone sizes to size up slowly before any position.
No. 2 · b-Vibe
Weighted plug
b-Vibe Snug Plug 1
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Finger-sized. About 0.9 across. Around 55 grams. Same thin neck and T-base as the rest of the Snug line. The first weighted plug if 2 looks like homework.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
Cons
- Small. You may outgrow it in a month
- Still a plug. Lube. Flared base. Don't skip either
Why it ranks: Weighted, small and comfortable to wear during other play.
No. 3 · b-Vibe
b-Vibe Novice Plug
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Small vibrating first plug. Soft silicone. The name is the pitch. For people who want a motor on night one and a size that does not pick a fight.
Pros
- Body-safe silicone
- Rechargeable motor
Cons
- Beginner size. The motor will not save a bad angle
- If you wanted weight and no buzz, that's Snug 1
Why it ranks: Slim vibrating plug with a remote for a relaxing first buzz.
No. 4 · Sliquid
Best lube
Sliquid Sassy
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Same clean Sliquid formula, thicker. Gel that stays put. The one people grab for anal or for a night that needs padding, not a thin slick.
Cons
- Too thick for some vaginal nights. That's why H2O exists
- Still water-based. It can dry if you wait too long
Why it ranks: Thick, cushioning water-based anal lube that stays put.
No. 5 · Liberator
Lift and relax
Liberator Wedge
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
High-density foam ramp with a 27-degree incline and removable microfiber cover that holds hips at the right angle without flattening mid-session.
Cons
- Too big for a nightstand drawer; store it in a closet or at the head of the bed
- Buy the moisture liner if you use lots of lube
Why it ranks: Lifts the hips for lying-flat and knees-up positions.
No. 6 · Vibratex / Magic Wand
Magic Wand Mini
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
The small wand. Still a wand. Broad rumble. Loud. Only for people who want that kitchen-tool motor and don't have thin walls.
Pros
- Silicone head
- Rechargeable handle
Cons
- Not the same brute force as the full-size
- Still louder than air-pulse
Why it ranks: A little front vibration helps many people relax into it.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Good first-time anal play is all about relaxed muscles, lots of lube and the receiver calling the shots. The right position makes all three easier.
Here are six beginner positions with the toy that helps in each, followed by the warm-up gear we rank for first-timers.
More position guides: Best positions for using a wand vibrator together, Best strap-on positions for beginners, Best positions for couples vibrators like We-Vibe Sync 2 and Chorus, Best sex wedge positions (Liberator Wedge, Ramp and more), Best positions for hands-free and remote vibrators
Before you buy
Buying guide
Warm up before any position
Start with a finger or the smallest plug, use far more lube than you think, and breathe out as you relax. Move up a size only when the last one feels easy. Silicone toys need water-based lube.
FAQ
Common questions
- What is the easiest anal position for beginners?
- Side-lying with the top knee bent. Muscles stay relaxed and it is easy to slow down or stop.
- Should you use a plug before anal sex?
- A small plug worn for a few minutes beforehand helps many people relax and get used to the feeling. A graduated kit like the Tush Trainer makes sizing up gradual.
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