Together
Best positions for using a wand vibrator together
A wand is the easiest toy to bring into partnered sex. The trick is picking positions that leave room for the handle.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
The verdict
Spooning and on-top positions are the easiest ways to bring a wand into partnered sex, because there is open space in front of the hips. The Magic Wand Rechargeable is our pick for most couples, and a Liberator Wedge under the hips makes missionary work too.
- Easiest start: spooning, with the wand in your own hand.
- Best wand for two: Magic Wand Rechargeable.
- Add a wedge to make missionary roomy.
Quick picks
Best wand for twoNo. 1 ↓
Magic Wand Rechargeable
Why it's here: Big, rumbly head that reaches from any angle.
Quieter splurgeNo. 2 ↓
Le Wand Rechargeable
Shop $150 at SheVibeships free
Easier to hold between youNo. 4 ↓
Magic Wand Mini
Lift for missionaryNo. 5 ↓
Liberator Wedge
At a glance
Compare the top 6
- 1
Magic Wand RechargeableBest wand for two$149.99 to $160.95from 17 reviews$149.99 → - 2
Le Wand RechargeableQuieter splurge$150Too new to rate$150 → - 3
We-Vibe Wand 2$135.20 to $169Too new to rate$169 → - 4
Magic Wand MiniEasier to hold between you$95 to $102.50Too new to rate$95 → - 5
Liberator WedgeLift for missionary$108 to $110Too new to rate$108 → - 6
Sliquid H2O$13.99Too new to rate$13.99 →
Try these
The positions
1. Spooning
Lie on your sides, the receiving partner in front. The front partner holds the wand against themselves while the partner behind kisses their neck and sets the pace. Nobody has to reach, and the wand stays exactly where you want it.
Magic Wand Rechargeable
2. Pillow-lifted missionary
Slide a wedge under the receiving partner's hips. The lift tilts the pelvis up and opens a little gap between your bodies, just enough for the wand head to rest on top while you move together. Go slow and grind rather than thrust.
3. You on top
Straddle your partner and hold the wand in front of you. You control the depth, the rhythm and the vibration, and your partner gets a very good view. A smaller wand is easier to angle here.
4. From behind
On all fours or lying flat with a pillow under your hips, reach the wand underneath you or let your partner reach around. The flat-lying version is lazier and keeps the wand pinned against the mattress, no hands needed.
Le Wand Rechargeable
5. Edge of the bed
The receiving partner lies back with hips at the edge while the other partner stands or kneels. The open space below the hips gives a long wand handle somewhere to go, and either of you can hold it.
Magic Wand Rechargeable
6. Seated face to face
Sit in your partner's lap, facing them, on the bed or a sturdy chair. Hold a compact wand between you, low on your body. It is close, slow and very kissable.
7. Wand on them
Turn the tables: hold the wand against your partner's perineum, the base of the shaft or their inner thighs during oral or hand play. Start on the lowest setting and let them steer you with a hand on yours.
The ranking
Wands and helpers for these positions, ranked
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · Vibratex / Magic WandPhoto at the top ↑
Best wand for two
Magic Wand Rechargeable
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
The cordless HV-270. Soft silicone head, a handle that looks like a kitchen tool, and a motor you feel in your wrist. If the battery dies you plug it into the wall and keep going.
Pros
- Rechargeable, or plug it into the wall
Cons
- Full size. Heavy. Loud on high. Not waterproof
- Broad head. Skip it if you only want a pinpoint
Why it ranks: Best wand for two: the classic rumble, cordless, and long enough to reach in spooning and edge-of-the-bed positions.
No. 2 · Le Wand
Quieter splurge
Le Wand Rechargeable
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
A pearl-white wand with a soft silicone head and a deep, rolling rumble that sinks in instead of skittering across the surface. Ten speeds, twenty patterns, a travel lock, and hours of play on one charge. Press it flat, breathe out, and let it take its time.
Pros
- Rechargeable
Cons
- Not waterproof. Keep it out of the bath
- Full-size and weighty. Not a purse toy
Why it ranks: Quieter, smoother splurge with a slimmer head that slides in easier from behind.
No. 3 · We-Vibe
We-Vibe Wand 2
Ships discreetly from Intimatify
We-Vibe's wand. Smaller than a Magic Wand, app if you want it, quieter than the HV-270. The head is broad enough. The motor is not trying to be a household appliance.
Pros
- Silicone head
- Rechargeable handle
- App optional
Cons
- You are paying We-Vibe money for less brute force than a Magic Wand
- App is extra. The buttons work
Why it ranks: Compact, app-capable wand that tucks between two bodies in lap and missionary positions.
No. 4 · Vibratex / Magic Wand
Easier to hold between you
Magic Wand Mini
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
The small wand. Still a wand. Broad rumble. Loud. Only for people who want that kitchen-tool motor and don't have thin walls.
Pros
- Silicone head
- Rechargeable handle
Cons
- Not the same brute force as the full-size
- Still louder than air-pulse
Why it ranks: Smaller and lighter, the easiest wand to angle when you are on top.
No. 5 · Liberator
Lift for missionary
Liberator Wedge
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
High-density foam ramp with a 27-degree incline and removable microfiber cover that holds hips at the right angle without flattening mid-session.
Cons
- Too big for a nightstand drawer; store it in a closet or at the head of the bed
- Buy the moisture liner if you use lots of lube
Why it ranks: The helper, not a vibrator: lifts the hips so a wand fits in missionary.
No. 6 · Sliquid
Sliquid H2O
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
The bottle under every other pick. Glycerin-free. Unscented. Works with silicone toys. You reapply. Buy this before you buy a second toy.
Cons
- It dries. Reapply. Keep the bottle in reach
- Not for a long water session. That's silicone lube
Why it ranks: Water-based and silicone-safe, so it works with every wand head on this page.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
A wand vibrator delivers broad, steady vibration that many people need to finish, and it plays nicely with a partner once you find a little space between your bodies. The handle is the only real puzzle.
Below are seven positions that make that space easy, each with the toy that helps most, followed by the wands we rank for partnered play.
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Before you buy
Buying guide
Which wand for partnered play
A corded or full-size rechargeable wand gives the strongest rumble and reaches easily when you spoon or use the bed edge. A mini wand is easier to tuck between two bodies in missionary or lap positions. Use a water-based lube on silicone heads.
FAQ
Common questions
- What is the easiest position to use a wand vibrator with a partner?
- Spooning. The front partner holds the wand on themselves while the partner behind sets the pace, so nobody has to reach.
- Can you use a wand during missionary?
- Yes, with a little lift. A wedge under the hips opens enough space for the wand head, and a grinding rhythm keeps it in place.
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