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Solo Anal Play Setup for Her: Magic Wand, MERCI Tush Trainer, Anal Lube and Cleaner
Curious about anal but want to explore it on your own terms first? This is the gentle, unhurried version: small plugs, plenty of lube, and a wand doing the sweet talking.
Reviewed by Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer) · Prices checked · How we rank
Best for most peopleUpdated
The MERCI Tush Trainer three-plug kit ($43), the Magic Wand Rechargeable ($149.99), Sliquid Sassy anal lube ($13.99) and Berman toy cleaner ($8.99): $215.97 for the whole setup.
- The plugs: MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit (No. 1) Shop $43 →
- The wand: Magic Wand Rechargeable (No. 2) Shop $149.99 →
- The lube: Sliquid Sassy (No. 3) Shop $13.99 →
- The lower-cost swap: Magic Wand Plus (No. 5) Shop $104.99 →
The verdict
Pair the MERCI Tush Trainer ($43), three silicone plugs that size up slowly, with the Magic Wand Rechargeable ($149.99) on your clit so the whole thing feels good from the first minute. Add Sliquid Sassy ($13.99), a thick water-based anal lube, and toy cleaner ($8.99). The whole setup is $215.97.
Our No. 1: MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit
- The warm-up: MERCI Tush Trainer, three soft silicone plugs from small to large, $43.
- The distraction: Magic Wand Rechargeable, deep rumble that keeps you relaxed and wanting more, $149.99.
- The basics: Sliquid Sassy for a thick, cushiony glide and a cleaner spray, under $23 together.
Quick picks
The plugsNo. 1 ↓
MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit
$43 to $47.95Plug kit, $43
Shop $43 at SheVibeThe wandNo. 2 ↓
Magic Wand Rechargeable
The lubeNo. 3 ↓
Sliquid Sassy
Anal lube, $13.99
Shop $13.99 at SheVibeThe lower-cost swapNo. 5 ↓
Magic Wand Plus
Quick answers
- What is the best solo anal play setup for her?
- The MERCI Tush Trainer three-plug kit ($43), the Magic Wand Rechargeable ($149.99), Sliquid Sassy anal lube ($13.99) and Berman toy cleaner ($8.99): $215.97 for the whole setup.
- Where can I buy the MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit?
- We link to SheVibe and Pleasure Chest. Every store gets the same size button on the card, and prices are re-checked when we update the guide.
- How do you rank these?
- By what people actually buy and search for, owner reviews, whether it is in stock, and how well it fits this list. Stores pay us a commission on some links, but that never moves a rank.
At a glance
Compare the top 5
- 1
MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug KitThe plugs$43 to $47.95Too new to rate$43 → - 2
Magic Wand RechargeableThe wand$149.99 to $160.95from 17 reviews$149.99 → - 3
Sliquid SassyThe lube$13.99Too new to rate$13.99 → - 4
Dr. Laura Berman Universal Toy Cleaner$8.99Too new to rate$8.99 → - 5
Magic Wand PlusThe lower-cost swap$104.99 to $111.50Too new to rate$104.99 →
The ranking
The solo anal setup, piece by piece
Ranked by demand, review quality, availability, and fit. Stars are owner review averages from the store or brand site, where there are enough reviews.
No. 1 · Doc JohnsonPhoto at the top ↑
The plugs
MERCI Tush Trainer 3-Piece Silicone Butt Plug Kit
CSO Review: owned by our teamShips discreetly from SheVibe
Three graduated velvet-touch silicone plugs (4, 5, and 6 inches) with slim tapered tips and curved T-bar bases that sit comfortably between the cheeks.
Pros
- Small, medium, and large plugs in one starter kit
- Soft necks bend naturally as you sit or walk
- Non-porous platinum silicone washes clean with soap and water
Cons
- Non-vibrating set; pair with an external vibrator if you want buzz
- Silicone requires water-based lube, not silicone lube
Why it ranks: The plugs. Three soft silicone sizes, so you grow into it at your own pace.
No. 2 · Vibratex / Magic Wand
The wand
Magic Wand Rechargeable
Wand vibrator, $149.99
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
The cordless HV-270. Soft silicone head, a handle that looks like a kitchen tool, and a motor you feel in your wrist. If the battery dies you plug it into the wall and keep going.
Pros
- Rechargeable, or plug it into the wall
Cons
- Full size. Heavy. Loud on high. Not waterproof
- Broad head. Skip it if you only want a pinpoint
Why it ranks: The wand. Clit vibration keeps you relaxed and turned on while the plug settles in.
No. 3 · Sliquid
The lube
Sliquid Sassy
Anal lube, $13.99
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Same clean Sliquid formula, thicker. Gel that stays put. The one people grab for anal or for a night that needs padding, not a thin slick.
Cons
- Too thick for some vaginal nights. That's why H2O exists
- Still water-based. It can dry if you wait too long
Why it ranks: The lube. Thick, water-based and safe on silicone plugs.
No. 4 · Dr. Laura Berman
Dr. Laura Berman Universal Toy Cleaner
Toy cleaner, $8.99
Free shipping at SheVibe over $68. Tempted to treat yourself? Add a silky lube and it all ships free.
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Unscented pump. The brand-name spritz. The listing still talks triclosan. Lower because a lot of people now shop around that word.
Cons
- Read the ingredients if triclosan is a no
- Shine or Refresh if you want a current bottle
Why it ranks: The cleanup. Spray, wipe, done, and nothing lingers.
No. 5 · Vibratex / Magic Wand
The lower-cost swap
Magic Wand Plus
Corded wand, $104.99
Ships discreetly from SheVibe
Corded HV-265. Four speeds instead of the Original's two. Same family shape. Still a wall plug. Still loud.
Cons
- Still corded. Still not waterproof
- If you wanted cordless, that is the Rechargeable
Why it ranks: The lower-cost swap. Same head and power, corded, and $45 less.
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Notes from Bedside CSO (Chief Sex Officer)
Plenty of women are curious about anal play and would rather figure it out alone before anyone else is involved. Good instinct. On your own you set the pace, you stop whenever you like, and you learn what actually feels good instead of what you think should.
This setup is built around the MERCI Tush Trainer, our Chief Sex Officer's pick for first plugs, plus the Magic Wand Rechargeable for your clit, Sliquid Sassy and a toy cleaner. Each is in stock at the price shown, and there is a Magic Wand Plus swap that saves $45.
Before you buy
Buying guide
Why the MERCI Tush Trainer
Three plugs in one box means you never have to guess your size. The small one is slim enough for a very first try, and the medium and large are there for when you want more fullness. They are soft, velvety silicone with a flared base that sits comfortably, and the whole kit is $43 at SheVibe today. It is the plug kit our Chief Sex Officer reviewed hands-on, picked because it is easy to love and easy on the budget.
Why add the Magic Wand Rechargeable
Arousal is what makes anal play feel good, and nothing builds it like a wand. Hold the Magic Wand on your clit while the plug settles in and the two sensations blend into one. The Rechargeable is cordless, so you can get comfortable anywhere. It is $149.99 at SheVibe, with 4.6 out of 5 from 17 owners there.
Want to spend a little less?
Swap in the Magic Wand Plus ($104.99). It is the same famous head with four speeds, it just plugs into the wall. The setup becomes $170.97.
Read this first
Mistakes to avoid
How the night goes
Start with the wand and nothing else until you are properly turned on. Then add a generous amount of Sassy to the small plug and to yourself, breathe out, and let it in slowly while the wand keeps humming. Leave it there and enjoy the fullness. If you love it, the medium can wait for another night. There is no prize for rushing.
A few easy tips
Use more lube than you think, and add more whenever things feel dry. Only use toys with a flared base. Go slow, and stop if anything hurts; pressure is normal, pain is not. Wash the plugs with warm soapy water or the cleaner spray after, and let them dry before storing.
Torn between two?
Head-to-head
FAQ
Common questions
- What do I need for solo anal play as a woman?
- This setup comes to $215.97: the MERCI Tush Trainer plug kit, the Magic Wand Rechargeable, Sliquid Sassy anal lube and a toy cleaner.
- Which plug size should I start with?
- The smallest one in the Tush Trainer kit. Size up only when the small one feels easy and good, which might take a few nights.
- Why use a vibrator during anal play?
- Arousal helps your body relax, and clit stimulation keeps the whole experience feeling good while you get used to the plug.
- Can I use silicone lube with silicone plugs?
- Stick with a water-based lube like Sliquid Sassy on silicone toys.
- Is there a cheaper version of this setup?
- Yes. Swap in the Magic Wand Plus ($104.99) and the total drops to $170.97.
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